Nate's birth story

I realised ( thanks to looking for blue sky) that i havent put nates birth story on here. The main reason being  i found it hard to talk about, and EVERY time i see a doctor with nate i have to go through the whole blooming thing again, and its exhausting! Since nate has turned one, his birth seems further away, and i can talk about it... but i had better start with the pregnancy....

I bled. A lot. And mean a lot! From 5-13 weeks every trip to the loo was a nightmare. He was scanned many times  and deemed ok, a sub chorionic haematoma was the cause of the bleeding and i was told not to panic.
The second trimester brought stress of another kind. Horrible stressful work due to school failing ofsted and being in special measures, and lots of strange goings on.
Then i had SPD, and due to ofsted didnt dare have time off so spent 4 weeks dragging my left leg about, crying in pain getting up and sitting down.Wonderful.
Third trimester- i was huge, everyone joked about my ten pound baby. i had to leave work early due to stress. Then, all of a sudden, i didnt seem big anymore. i didnt feel "right" either, it's hard to describe, but I knew something was wrong. He also stopped moving as much so i had several "monitoring sessions" in hospital. naties HR seemed erratic, but it was suggested he kept lying on his cord and I was sent away. Then he changed position. i became convinced at 36 weeks that Nate was breech. my MW assured me this was not the case and that his head was engaged. Hmmmm.

On the 25th june ( 5 days before due date) i had a sudden urge to vacuum... Everywhere. i lifted the bed frame up to get all the dust, i vacuumed the stairs... All over. Then I had a cuppa, went to the loo and my waters had gone.But they didnt look right. they were a funny colour. My husband took me up to hospital. i was told nate was lying in meconium and although i was contracting they couldnt let me proceed at my own pace- i needed a drip.The drip was cranked up every half an hour and i was dealing quite well and i declined anything other
than gas and air. i wasnt given an internal as the MW said she would only do this if i wanted more pain relief, but i didnt want pain relief till i knew how far into labour i was, so we had a bit of a stand off. i bounced on a birthing ball as the pain increased and eventually wanted onto the bed, and fancied some pain relief. During my subsequent internal examination i noticed a look of panic as the mw felt about. She could feel bum not head she said. brilliant. i was 6-7 cm. she went off to find a dr and contractions came thick and fast. a dr confirmed the breechness of natie pie and i was 8-9 cm. they went outside to discuss a plan and i had to get hubbie to drag them back in as i needed to push. i was sped hastily to theatre where they
said they would try to deliver him naturally, but his HR dropped and he ended up being born by emeregency c section.
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As soon as i saw him i loved him. He was squished up and a purpley colour, legs at a funny angle. he had needed oxygen at birth but they told me he was fine.

I had him in my arms in the recovery room and hubbie left to get our daughter. Nate was quiet. Very quiet. The midwife kept checking on me and took nate to special care to be checked as she was concerned about his "tone". im so stupid i thought they meant his odd colour, but no it was his floppyness. later a dr asked if we had noticed how unusual his features were.......

He spent a week in the incubator and they tested him for everything under the sun. we were told he could live weeks. Then they thought he had a syndrome that would mean a life of 6 months max. we came home after 4 weeks and tried to get on with life. eventually we heard his chromosomes were normal and he could have a specific gene abnormality but they wernt sure what. Hes had mris, ultrasounds, x rays, blood and urine tests, over and over again.
He needs a nippy ventilator at night and oxygen during the day. he has low muscle tone, he is delayed, he has poor/ little eyesight, he has ususual features.

but he is one happy bunny.